Dear Dani,
A playmate body shaming, really?! How DARE you! You should be ashamed of yourself. Just because you choose to show your nude body to the world does NOT give you the right to share anybody else’s. I’ll get to body shaming in a minute but invading that lady’s privacy and posting it for the world to see, whether accidental or not, is absolutely unacceptable!
As a woman, how do you expect us to teach our young boys to respect women? As a playmate body shaming should not be your way of letting the world know how much you respect women. How do you expect us to teach our boys not to sexualize women when you yourself feel it okay to post nude photos of a woman you don’t even know? When you yourself are so incredibly disrespectful to her? As 2015 playmate of the year, you have the media spotlight to send good messages out and make a difference in this world and yet all you did was spread hate.
Do you even know what body shaming means? Lets define it, shall we? It means you discriminate against overweight people. You have a negative attitude toward someone else’s size or weight. You SPREAD negativity about someone else’s size. Whether you meant to spread it to the world or in a private conversation with a friend is irrelevant. Who cares? You spread the negativity.
Your apology may totally be sincere but it’s not what you did that bothers me the most. It’s what you felt. It’s what you thought…two seconds before you posted that snapchat. You obviously looked at that woman and thought something negative. You didn’t even know her name. You didn’t even know what her story is. You didn’t even care that she was at the gym trying to improve herself while you sat there and tore her down, whether in your own head, in a private message, or publicly. If seeing her makes you feel grossed out, why do you invalidate the fact that she’s trying to improve the very thing that grosses you out in the first place?
I’m not reposting that picture you took because I refuse to participate in her nude photo going viral without her knowledge or consent. How humiliating for her that you did that! She can’t unfeel what you’ve made her feel. She can’t unsee what you’ve now forced her and the rest of the world to see.
You take that time and reflect on what you’ve done. Perhaps you can reflect on how you can make a positive difference in the world while you’re at it. Start by not spreading negativity, whether privately with your friends or publicly. Just stop it. We need less judges in this world and a whole lot more support and compassion. Do you think you can handle that?
Forget skinny, I’m training to be a fit badass that doesn’t hate on other people.
Sincerely,
~Ki
P.S. To the woman who was involuntarily in the headlines today after a hard work out: Girl, do not let this tear you down. You keep doing what you need to do to improve yourself and don’t worry about what anybody else has to say about it. Ignore the negativity, there’s a whole world of supporters out here. You hold your head high and keep doing what you’re doing. You rock!